O, to have a little house!
To own the hearth and stool and all!
The heaped up sods against the fire,
The pile of turf against the wall!
To have a clock with weights and chains
And pendulum swinging up and down!
A dresser filled with shining delph,
Speckled and white and blue and brown!
I could be busy all the day
Clearing and sweeping hearth and floor,
And fixing on their shelf again
My white and blue and speckled store!
I could be quiet there at night
Beside the fire and by myself,
Sure of a bed and loth to leave
The ticking clock and the shining delph!
Och! but I’m weary of mist and dark,
And roads where there’s never a house nor bush,
And tired I am of bog and road,
And the crying wind and the lonesome hush!
And I am praying to God on high,
And I am praying Him night and day,
For a little house – a house of my own
Out of the wind’s and the rain’s way.
When the chilly winds and rain of winter blow, we are cosy in our big house with the home fires burning. My son said he misses the warm fires when he is away. I even have a dresser of my own with the Delph.
My daughter got in touch with Brendan at the airport. The information desk paged him on the intercom. He was soon to board his flight to London. He returned home to be with me at the hospital. Our baby was well on its way when Brendan arrived. I was delighted to see him. The labour progressed. Brendan brought me extra courage and strength. David was born, a healthy baby boy of ten pounds with a strong pair of lungs.
I have always been excited when I started in labour. I know the waiting is over and my baby will be born soon. I had no fear for my well being or my child’s health. I believe in God’s promise that “Children are a gift from God”Psalm 127 v 3 and “He will keep me safe in childbearing.” 1 Timothy 2 verse 1.
Children wait in anticipation for a Christmas present from parents, or “Santa Claus” and do not be disappointed. Before Christmas I see parents going around franticly looking for their children’s presents, greeting stressed out and spending much money.
“You fathers—if your children ask for a fish, do you give them a snake instead? Or if they ask for an egg, do you give them a scorpion? Of course not! So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him.” (Luke 11:11-13 NLT)
Brendan and I decided many years ago to delete Santa Claus out of our family. We had many reasons.
1. Santa Claus is a lie. If we as parents tell our children lies when they are young, then how will they trust us to believe important things we tell them later in life.
2. This lie is mixed in with an important event in the Christian calendar, Christmas, the birth of Jesus, a gift from God the Father. It is good to give gifts to one another at this time to celebrate God’s gift to us. But let us be truthful about it. You shall know the truth and the truth will set you free.
3. One can live within ones means. Many people get into debt at Christmas time. The consumer society makes most profit at this time. How come Santa does not go to the poor countries of Africa?
4. One does not have to get stressed out living up to expectations of having to buy presents, Christmas tree, turkey, make big meals, celebrating. Christmas Day is the most stressful day of the year when family tensions run high.
“So don’t worry about these things, saying, ‘What will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?’ These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. “So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today. (Matthew 6:31-34 NLT)
5. Many people want the fun, fellowship and feasting but do not acknowledge the One that Christmas is all about.
It turned out that eight of our children were born around the Christmas season. Our children were gifts from God to us.
I was very comfortable in the maternity unit I was transferred to. It was a home from home. Twenty five years ago mothers were happy to stay in hospital to get help with their babies. One could get a good night’s sleep. The night nurses fed the babies. Now because of financial cuts and mother’s choice the stay in hospital is one or two days after the baby is delivered.
I was happy for Brendan to go to the conference. I would stay in hospital and enjoy the care, until his return. I got plenty of rest, good food, and had time to bond with my beautiful new son.
I had no care for tomorrow.
David is a bright, handsome young man. He has a heart to work with disadvantaged people. He has already worked in Nicaragua and India. He is overcoming difficulties to get into his destiny that God had planned for him before he was born. May God bless him this year.
It is also the twenty fifth anniversary of the Keg Worth aircraft crash today. On the night of David,s birth, when Brendan was on his way from Belfast to London, a flight from London to Belfast crashed with 114 people on board. Forty seven people died. It is a sad day for many. I will not forget David’s birthday.
When Brendan and I were in Seschelt our friend Ivan took us for a drive up along the coast.
We parked near a bay and our host told us he often went fishing there. The salmon were abundant in these waters and one was sure of a catch. What an ideal way to spend an evening in the sunset on his little boat in the bay. This certainly was the good life.
We stopped off at a coffee shop. Some people called over to us and told us “The salmon are running!”
There was a small river flowing nearby. We crossed over to it and sure enough we saw salmon spawning in the shallow waters. What an oppportunity for us!
While Brendan and I rejoiced to see this feature of nature before our eyes, our friend took some video footage. We were all excited as we spent those moments. It was a once in a lifetime experience.
Salmon live their adult life in the waters of the ocean. The Pacific is a big ocean, and millions of salmon return up the many rivers along the Canadian coast in Autumn. There are many types of salmon. The Sockeye is the biggest and most popular salmon caught. Wild bears and eagles have a feeding frenzy when the fish return.
The salmon has one goal, to return to the place where they were born to hatch their young. Once they leave the salt waters and enter the fresh water of the river the salmon stop feeding. They start the hazardous journey upstream over rapids, waterfalls and potholes to get to the shallow water when they can swim no further.
There the female releases her eggs in the sandy water bed and the male fertilises them. The parent salmon work is done. Every ounce of their energy has been used to get to their destination. They die soon afterwards.
We watched as the salmon released their eggs in that Creek. There were queues of fish waiting in the shallows to take their turn to lay their eggs. Perhaps they were not so keen to go forward because they knew their end was near.
Brendan, our friend and I savoured this moment. What is nature saying to us?
As I pondered on this I thought of my own life as a parent. Our goal as parents is to raise our young and help them through the stormy waters that we have passed through and show them the way.
The salmon entering the fresh water begins the journey of dying to self. This is symbolic of the one who decides to follow Jesus as well. He leaves the ocean, which represents the world and enters into the river of The Holy Spirit. Just like the salmon one has to die to self so more of the life of Christ lives in us.
As I get older I realise that on my journey in the river of the Holy Spirit I have had to die many times to my own will. As I trust God ‘s leading in my life I have peace. I can pass what I have learnt on to my children. I do not have to die physically like the salmon, but I have to die to my own will. The following scripture sums up the Christian journey.
But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen (Jesus the author and finisher of our faith) since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal. (2 Corinthians 4:7, 16, 18 NIV)
Yesterday Brendan and I went to visit a friend who is a prisoner, Brendan’s mother who is 93, and another man who is principal of a school.
The first snow was falling as we drove early to the prison. Our friend was glad to see us. He was cheerful and encouraged us to keep on looking after our family. His wife and all but one of his children do not visit him. He realises what he has lost because of his selfishness. He encouraged us and we encouraged him. He is sure of God’s forgiveness and love and prays for his family. He is hoping for restoration.
Brendan’s mother is settling home after a few days in hospital. Despite her weakness she blessed us with Christmas gifts for our family. She has lived a long life and has seen her children’s children’s children, all sixteen of them. She was widowed young, reared her boys and lived humbly. She is leaving behind a good legacy. She has borne good fruit.
The principal of a school invited us to pray with him. Two hundred and twenty five young children attend the school. Jesus said “Let the little children come to me for such is the kingdom of heaven.”
We encouraged him and prayed for wisdom for his task in overseeing forty staff and all those pupils.
I always give thanks to God for the school teachers who cared for and taught my children. I was reassured they were being well looked after, while I was busy with my younger children.
Teachers do a great job, but the parents can give the best example to their children. How we live our lives as parents affects our children. We do not get to be selfish for long as we rear our children. One of my favourite verses in Exodus 20 says God promises to bless us to the thousandth generation of those who love The Lord but curses come upon our children to the fourth generation if we disobey God. What choice will you make?
But I believe their is hope for the prisoner and his family. Jesus forgives our sins and promises to restore all that is lost. Over and over in the bible we read about the children of Israel. When they were far away from God because of their sins He always had mercy and restored them. When I was feeling hopeless and about to die of cancer, God sent his healing and restored me. There is hope.
Brendan and I were in Canada and Slovakia recently sharing this hope with many people. God wants to restore families. Jesus shed his Precious Blood to pay the price for our wrongdoing and our forefathers’ wrongdoing. You can go free from guilt and shame. Do not blame, just forgive. And God will restore that which has been lost.
May God bless you and your family in this season of good will.
Angela