It was fifty years ago around Easter time that I discovered I was pregnant. I was in my second year at university, What should I do? What will my parents think? Will I finish my studies?
I was aware that the University Medical Center arranged for a student to go to England if she wanted an abortion. Not everyone wanted the responsibility of a child. One was at university to further one’s prospect of a job and career. Having a child would interfere with those plans. Best stop the pregnancy and no one will know, some students thought.
The western world was going through revolution. Youth in the west threw off the customs of their forefathers and guidelines on how to live. The pill was available so one didn’t have to get married. Abortion became available. Music was being blasted over the airwaves about love, all you need is love. The result of throwing off the wisdom gained from previous generations has resulted in millions of children being aborted.
I decided I wanted to keep my child. I didn’t listen to my peers. I wasn’t passionate about a future career. Brendan asked me to marry him. We were twenty years and twenty one years old respectively. We were willing to face the future together as many people before us have done. My daughter Shann was born later that year.
Recently we celebrated Shann’s success in getting the highest mark in her Masters, doing research for community health care. If we had aborted my unborn child we wouldn’t have had the joy of raising and being responsible for another human being. Brendan’s mother wouldn’t have had the joy of seeing her first grandchild and spending many happy days with her. In nannie’s old age Shann cared for her.
Shann has brought love to many. The world would not be the same without her. Shann has been a blessing. She is married to Mark. They have four beautiful children. As a health professional she has worked with sick children and elderly. She encourages her colleagues when they are having a bad day. She is compassionate to her neighbours.
Our eldest child has loved us and her siblings unconditionally. We look forward to many good days together in the future.
This story is the result of my choice fifty years ago not to have an abortion.